Grief touches us all. For me, I went through four of the five stages of grief in the last month of my mom's life at the hospital.   The fifth stage (acceptance) and sixth (finding meaning) is ongoing. The last two stages start with pain but have more depth as time goes on.  Acceptance & ...read more

With the many counselors to through today, when do you know who you contact is right for you? Here are some things to think about: Do you want a resume or a person? Do you get a feeling when you read someone's bio? Is the person a little like you?  Can you connect? Hope that ...read more

I just read a really good quote " a child only gets one childhood."  I can't say that always comes to my mind when counseling a pre-teen or teenager but it should. A question for parents is "What did you want your child's childhood to look like?" A question for the teen is "What do you want ...read more

Think about when are you?  Is it when you are with certain friends or family?  At work? Point is, it's healthy but it's also hard to do. It's important to be aware of how you are & when , in what context. Some ideas that you might do in trying to think more about when are you , ...read more

When we are stressed, busy or cold - we tend to think about going to the beach.  If only we could get away we would feel so much better. I have always thought the ocean had a healing effect on my mind so I began researching and trying to put it into words what happens when we are thinking of the ...read more

Coming up with new ideas doesn't happen as much when you are stressed, angry or feeling less confident. Coming up with new ideas comes when you are calm, peaceful. This gives your mind room to let those thoughts in. When you are doing anything you enjoy , you are relaxed or calm ,  you are in ...read more

So, keeping it real isn't so easy. Here's a place to start...... List a few of your values, such as compassion, creativity, kindness, fairness, leadership and so on.... Write down where you think you aren't living by your values...  and then think about what you could do differently in ...read more

How do you start a new year?  Many people make resolutions, but you might try just thinking about creating something new.. Start by ... Being observant Learning something new Think about when you feel your best Spend some time daily visualizing how something new would fit into your ...read more

When you feel  anxious about anything, it could be your perception about the situation that you don’t have what it takes to cope? What can think about and do in this time of Coronavirus … Believe and know you do have what it takes to adjust. Know that you can prepare and make a list of ...read more

Defined as "the sense of one's own value or worth as a person" It is about who you are not what you do. It is not based on comparing yourself to what others do or have. Try thinking about your day and how you feel in various situations? What can trigger you to feel anxious, upset ? Do ...read more