Managing stress is an ongoing daily activity, but here’s something to think about….
How we handle change is huge. Do you welcome it or dread it? Do you anticipate positive changes from it or imagine all the worst what if’s? Here’s a couple of new definitions for you.
“Control coping” is positive and proactive. This is when you refuse to feel like a victim of change; instead you take charge and do whatever you can to be part of the solution, including managing your feelings & expectations.
“Escape coping” is based on avoidance. You experience thoughts and emotions, or take specific actions, that help you avoid the difficulties of change. This is when you don’t show up for a meeting, don’t keep in contact with people or just check out of the process.
The bottom line is that all life experiences consist of change. It’s important to be truthful to yourself about which one of these you do or do first. And, if you escape before you cope, why? Do you manage differently based on what people you are with, situations you are in or experiences you have had in your life?