How do you know if you have experienced trauma? One of the best definitions of trauma I have come across in my years as a therapist is this: Trauma is something that overwhelms our ability to cope. Each of us is unique – what is overwhelming to one of us may not be overwhelming for another. Understanding that your experience is just that – yours – offers an opportunity to release judgement and comparison. In this way, it is possible to let go of shame, and tend your inner life with kindness and compassion. The question of whether your particular pain “counts” as trauma, becomes irrelevant. Your pain counts. You count, and you matter as much as any other living being.
Life is not always the pretty pictures posted on our social media feeds. It can be beautiful, of course, full of smiles and “firsts” and an assortment of celebrations and mundane moments of awe. But, it can also be challenging, overwhelming, and sometimes downright awful – sometimes things happen that we can barely name, much less feel safe enough to share with another. Acknowledging and eventually allowing another to witness these experiences is a big deal – it might be scary, but ultimately it transforms these experiences from something that haunts you to something that empowers and deepens you. This is an amazing process, and one that none of us can anticipate because it comes from a deep, whole place inside of you!
The bottom line is that once you can acknowledge your wounds, you can begin to heal them. This is where therapy comes in! Together, we will move through a process of reconnecting with your own wisdom, letting go of what doesn’t serve you, and gradually becoming whole in a brand new way, you can have a life that is full, connected, and meaningful. Give me a call and lets begin!